build your beautiful self

In order to be happy oneself, it is necessary to make at least one other person happy.

Theodor Reik

Today was a day to work really hard on protecting my brain space. I am not sure if you ever go through these days, but being a person who is sensitive to other’s emotional state, days like today are a tough one to come out of unscathed.

I had a friend tell me once that what I needed to do was envision a rose out about a foot in front of me and everywhere I go in the world, imagine that that rose is there. The purpose of the rose is to absorb all the negative energy around me to stop it before it enters my space.

The rose is my guardian he says. If I lose the rose or it fades from my vision, then I will more easily be affected by people’s emotional state.

Well I lost it today because here I am at the end of my day and I am emotionally drained from all the negativity that I was around.

Are you negative? Here are some of the things that I have found to be the biggest indicators for negativity:

1. interacting with people in a “joking” manner but it is derogatory toward them
2. Complaining alot about simple life things
3. Always feeling like things are happening to you for no reason
4. Talking about or thinking about all the potential bad outcomes for situations even when they are going well
5. Self depreciating comments (making fun of yourself)

There are more to add to this list but if you are even 2 out of this list of 5, you have some negative tendencies.

There are many ways to combat being negative and tools you can use to help change the perspective.

Negative people can change the energy in others just as positive people can. Have you noticed when you get around someone who is complaining, you tend to complain too? On the flip side, if you are around someone upbeat and positive, you tend to feel more optimistic…

I challenge you to catch yourself when you are getting on the blame game and work on shifting to finding the positive in the thing you are blaming.

Us empaths appreciate the effort 💙