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Being a step parent is hard. It can be even harder during the holidays. Either you have the arrangement where you share Christmas Eve and Christmas Day or one parent gets the kid one year and the next year you have to give up.

Being Jewish is easier in this scenario. There are equal amounts of days to share!

I have been a step parent for 17 years now and it still doesn’t get easier.

I feel like there is this unspoken competition for best Christmas presents and overall holiday season that drives us crazy! Feelings of inadequacies when the child talks about all the things from the other house that were or are amazing and exciting not knowing the dagger to the heart that they are stabbing you with. Not to mention when they snub some of the things you thought they would love.

Obviously this is our own internal insecure feelings being projected out there. We are doing the best we can do and the children love us more for the time we give to them over the things we buy for them.

So if you are struggling this time of year like I do sometimes, remember you are an amazing creature who has the opportunity to love a child and show them a different perspective on life. You are not alone and you were given this blessing of a bonus child that you didn’t have to birth and if you show them love and affection, they will absolutely love you back tenfold.

I hope your holiday is filled with joy and you are blessed in the coming year with prosperity.

Step parents are awesome! Be proud to wear the badge!