build your beautiful self

I have gotta say, I have been so immersed in trying to get the business built to the way I see it in my mind that I have forgotten how to dedicate time for my personal passions for writing and sharing.

Isn’t that the curse of the entrepreneur? Hustle/grind to get the thing built and let you and the things important to you fall to the wayside. For the lack of activity, I apologize. I am back however and inspired and want to re-engage my blogs.

At the beginning of the year I took the time to set my intensions for the year.

How much money I want to make
How my business looks
What my personal life looks like
How I behave and interact in my relationships
How much vacation time I want

You know, life and business vision stuff.

Over the last 3 quarters I have built up a team, built my list of buyers, ALMOST hit my monthly income target and learned so many new strategies.

It is a spectacle.

Here are the biggest lessons I learned in the process:

Visionary vs Integrator: I am personally a visionary in the truest sense of the word. If you are new to the entrepreneur world, I am sure you will hear these terms eventually. The terms come from the book Traction by Gino Wickman.
Here is their definition of Visionary –

“A Visionary is a person who has lots of ideas, is a strategic thinker, always sees the big picture, has a pulse on your industry, connects the dots, and researches and develops new products and services. The Visionary typically is the founding entrepreneur, operates more on emotion, and has ADD (but not always). This person is great with big relationships, the culture of the organization, and solving big, ugly problems (not the little ones); sees things others can’t; creates and holds the company vision; and is great at closing big deals. Visionaries are the creators of everything.”

On the other side, a Visionary isn’t good at holding people accountable, doesn’t like details, doesn’t like running the day to day of the business, isn’t good at following through, gets distracted easily, and is always trying to get 100 pounds in a 50-pound bag. All of this can create a lot of chaos for an organization.”

Me personally, I love thinking big picture, I am able to see problems in my own business and other people’s businesses and am able to think through the solutions. I am able to offer suggestions for change and share what I have seen work for myself and others. I think that is my creative genius or my superpower.
I am NOT an integrator, or in a different light, I am an integrator by force.

Their definition of an Integrator – “An Integrator is the person who is the tie-breaker for the leadership team, is the glue for the organization, holds everything together, beats the drum (provides cadence), is accountable for the P&L results, executes the business plan, holds the Leadership Team accountable, and is the steady force in the organization. The Integrator also creates organizational clarity, communication, and consistency; typically (but not always) operates more on logic; drives results; forces resolution, focus, team unity, prioritization and follow-through; is the filter for all of the Visionary’s ideas; harmoniously integrates the Leadership Team; and helps to remove obstacles and barriers.”

I needed to take a hard look at these things, understand who I am and what makes me tick and then find the people to put in place to accommodate what I am not. Know yourself .

Who not How: When you know who you are you need to find the “Who” to replace you in the things you suck at. I now have the most amazing executive assistant and partner who is all about the structure of the company.

You will not always make the best choices on your first hire, but had I hired someone to help me years ago, I would have really done well for myself. Also I would have been able to make more time for myself and my family.

No One Will Die: No one will die if you don’t answer the call while you are in the middle of dinner with your kids. No one will die if you don’t jump into your email account every time the notification goes off. No one will die if you work on the deep work for an hour and ignore the rest of the world. No one will die if you take the afternoon off because you are just need a break.
Ok in certain Emergency situations, like life or death situation, you may need to respond, but in the business world, you are allowed to step back for a moment and breathe. That is actually what I am doing right now as I write this. None of my team will perish because I am taking time to share with you. None of my deals will fall apart in this brief hiatus that I am taking. I will respond when finished and I will be refreshed and ready to take on what is being asked of me when I am done with this post.

DO YOU!: You need to do you. The business is the business and if you are the leader, be the leader that YOU want to be, not what you should be. You also need to be you on the outside of the business. Who you are as a person, who you are with your family, who you are with your friends. People appreciate authenticity over status. It makes you human and relatable.

I have taken up watercolor painting because it takes the focus off my day and puts it into what I am painting. I spend time reading and actually went to the book store to purchase hard copy books that spoke to me because I would prefer to read a book over watching some lame movie or TV show that sucks you in and wastes like all of a Sunday binging. I started Saturday walks on the beach to enjoy my home again, and Saturdate nights with my love to keep our relationship flamin. I joined Girl Facebook groups to engage my friendship muscle with people outside of real estate so I can have new people to talk to and do things with. I am rekindling the ME that got sucked back into work-a-holic mode. It has been amazing and so helpful. I still work really hard on my business, but I force myself to make time for myself too.

Journal: Keep a journal. Make it a point to track what you do, how you feel, what you need to do, and things that inspire you. I have tried so many ways to keep a journal. I usually used the prefilled versions with prompts or just thought I should be “journaling” where I brain dump. I needed a better way. I found the Bullet Journal Method book after seeing the term come up more and more among peers. It has helped dramatically. I was doing something similar to it before but it was sloppy and just a bunch of things that I needed to remember in a small notebook, or on post its or notepads that were everywhere. It has helped me be much more organized. Now I’ll admit, I am not religious on all the tactics in the book, but I do it my own way and it works for me. I do me! lol

Find A Tribe: The mastermind I am a part of and the coach that runs it have catapulted my business in so many ways. They have provided infrastructure that I needed, support when I am lost and I love hearing all that they do because I always learn so much. Pay for the tribe, it is worth the money.

I hope these few things that I have learned, help you or inspire you. I have made YOU a priority also so I will take time every week to share my life with you. If you enjoy my posts please comment on them! This small thing (hearing your insights and inspirations) makes my heart happy.

CHEERS!!!!