build your beautiful self

I was sitting here working on my business and I found myself thinking.

My business is not where I want it to be, yet. What does that mean and why is it like that?

I realized, as I sat here and really leaned into the thought process, that I am living the “who do you have to become to get the life you want” stretch.

I was raised in both the entrepreneurial road and the 9-5 road. My parents owned a company when I was little, when they separated, the business shut down. My dad stayed on with freelance work and my mom went to work for a construction company.I saw both sides of the coin.
My dad worked a handful of days a month and spent the rest of the time doing whatever he wanted to do and my mom went to work before I left for school and came home around dinner time.

When I was in high school I was bored. The content was not engaging and the teachers didn’t present in a way that I was present for mentally. I skated until I dropped out. Later on I realized if I didn’t want to work crap jobs, I would need to figure out what to do with my life. This was at 24. From there, I invoked the mental patterns of the middle aged and overworked social/working classes. I wanted to rise on the ladder and get to the top, so I worked and went to college. I got my job and had been mentally conditioned to be the same as all the other people who get up early, work their 8 (really only 3) hours to get the paycheck that is absolutely never enough and keep on keeping on in that cycle.

Then I get shoved into the light when the rug is pulled from under me. I see how that life works. I dove a foot at a time into being my own boss until I was working full time for myself. I was not yet the person I needed to be to make a difference by myself.

Over the years I have learned who I really needed to become to be an effective business owner. That is a whole long other blog.

Here are the key points though:

I had to be good with me. I had to really work through all the things that I had done in the past and the behaviors that I adopted due to those things.

I had to accept the things I am not good at and also learn how to ask others for help

I had to learn my value that I bring to the table

I am still working on financial intelligence. I feel this is an area you need to continuously work on.

I needed to pull myself out of the materialistic lifestyle that I was taught and the bad money habits around that

I needed to learn how to heal my mind, value my spirit, honor my wounds, and cut out the bullshit I was selling to myself about who I was.

I need to really learn my business niche and work on becoming the best at it instead of winging it and searching for help along the way.

I need someone to tell me when my ideas are not feasible at the moment, should be dropped altogether or should be looked into further. I am an idea generator, not a how to implement said ideas person.

I had to learn how to focus on my space and stay in my lane.

This is my list of things. The last is super important since I am a visionary and I have high excitement with new ideas that I can see in my head. It derails the progress in the lane I am trying to progress in if I take a little sidestep into a side project.

You can fall into 1 of three categories according to many pieces of literature I have read as of late (Most credit goes to Traction the book). You are either A) Visionary (Big ideas, Big Picture, Sales, Stories) B) Integrator (the person who makes all the stuff happen in a business) or C) A worker (someone who takes direction from A or B to get the work done.)

Always work to seek out what you are not. If you are not an A or a B figure out where you want to be in your C status. There is nothing wrong with being a C. We need C’s to run our businesses. C’s are awesome, they are just better at being a C than an A/B or they just don’t want to be their own boss. The key to happiness with work is to understand which you are and figure out the play with your worklife from there.

I am always here for you if you need better understanding of the things I talk about or if you need someone to help you pull out your greatness. I am a great listener 🙂

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