build your beautiful self

When you need income to pay the bills and want to pursue your passion project, plus wanting to build your business, it’s like a game of tug of war.

Currently I have a 1099 position that I use to pay the bills. I work it 4 days and week and it fuel my fire for entrepreneurship every day.

When I was younger I wanted to be somebody for my son. I had spent most of my adult life to day bartending, waitressing , and trying to find that perfect career. Deep down I knew I didn’t want to be a lifer in the restaurant industry and certainly found my way around jobs that were capped as far as growth potential.

“What could I do to get myself and my son a better life” I always thought. I went through a myriad of job types trying to figure it out.

I had always wanted to work with animals. Wasted too many high school years not paying attention or even attending high school. Then when I found out I was pregnant, I was politely asked to leave. No university/8 years of college for me. 😒

I found a program that got me doing what I wanted to do at the time and I jumped at the opportunity. I enrolled and started classes the next week. I aced it all and Graduated with a 4.0

First job out of college was in the corporate setting. I had a cubicle and everything! I was living.

Boom, merger on the eve of the recession. I was out of a job. The one thing I was able to take with me was the negative feelings of not really connecting with the people in the company. I was curious to learn my job but likely not a very mature 20 something.

As I worked over the years, I got better at my job and with that came a sense of entitlement that I should be making more money, and the arrogance of thinking that I was invaluable. “They won’t let me go, I am the only one who works in this field in this company!” Was I wrong. I didn’t realize at that point in my life, what the strategies of management and boards of directors were when making decisions for the welfare of the company. I didn’t realize how people look at you when you’re ego is involved. I also didn’t see the impact of my negative beliefs about the company I worked for and the people I worked with on the environment.

I worked for myself for years as a 1 woman show and part of small teams, joint venture partnerships and leading, leaders of a crew.

I learned how much I could rely on myself and others. I was out of the isolated, egotistical environment that sucks the life out of you if you fall into the status quo.

I have since jumped back into that environment on my own terms and am able to take a look at this from a very unique perspective. I see how upper levels manage and make decisions as well as mid level management actions. I also hear how these items trickle down and how the entry level people get egotistical about it or even resentful about management and their decisions.

There is an interesting dynamic when all sorts of personalities are slapped together to make a company tick. I have also seen how one negative person can really spread through the organization like the plague. I have experienced one person being singled out as the topic on conversation when they behave in certain ways that trigger other team members to talk smack.

I have used this as my educational playground to see what works and doesn’t work in corporate structure. I hope to put this info together one day into useful material for anyone who works a job or runs a business with employees.

All I can say is, if you are at a job, you are there for a reason…to do your job.

Always do your best work

Be nice to coworkers and always ask if they need help

If you have a problem with someone, have a conversation about it! Don’t let it become a toxic thing

Make sure you are behind your company’s message and aligned with their vision. You’ll feel much better going there daily if you do.

Try to find solutions, not just more problems. If you have a problem, figure it out! Don’t bitch about it then do nothing to change it.

Be ambitious for learning new things.

It’s not always about the money.

Show initiative and quality relationships will follow.

Be a team player.

Be tactful when you are speaking to someone. Your tone is a huge player in how your message is received.

Always try to be as prepared as possible. You will go farther being prepared.

Just a couple helpful lessons I learned. Cheers!