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Something I thought about today. Getting caught up in work mode when you are in a relationship can sometimes cause issues in your relationship. Being an entrepreneur is sometimes a difficult balancing act.

I work several different streams of business and sometimes there isn’t enough hours in the day to make sure that everyone’s needs are met, including your own. I have found that multi tasking between trying to work on your business and paying attention to the people who are most important in your life is the most difficult thing you can do. It doesn’t allow you to fully engage with either task.

I have found that half heartedly paying attention to the person or people who are most important in your life while trying to work causes pain and irritation.

Some questions you need to ask yourself are:

Have you set your working hour boundaries?
Sometimes you have to schedule out your working hours with your friends and loved ones. Treat your business like a business. If you are feeling like your time isn’t separated and you are treating your loved ones unfairly by not giving them your full attention during your normal working hours then you should set boundaries. Clearly define what hours you will be working on your business and stick to them.

Is what you are currently working on an important task for you?
This question should make you think delegation. If you find that your family time is most important but you are coming up short on hours you are spending with them, then maybe you need to re-evaluate all the tasks you are doing in a day. There are many things that can be delegated to a virtual assistant for example. You typically make a significantly larger amount of revenue when you have people who are focused 100% on the tasks that you are spending minimal time and effort on because you have many other things on the brain.

Are you trying to escape life by diving in the work deep end?
I have also seen people who are trying to run away from problems at home by working so hard on their business that they use that as an excuse to escape and not deal with their personal life issues. Sometimes a simple conversation with your significant other regarding your issues can solve a lot of problems. You can find out what is causing the rift and you can course correct. This is an excellent opportunity to self evaluate with some feedback to someone who is supposed to be most important. Maybe you did some subtle things that causes irritation. Without a good conversation about it in a neutral environment, you will never know what happened.

I would ask yourself questions based on the circumstances that you have in front of you. Sometimes entrepreneurs get one track minds and forget about what is important. Many relationships fail from that fact. Be super diligent with regard to other people’s feelings when you are in work mode and try to find ways to make sure they know they are important and you didn’t mean to make them feel second-rate.

It is nice to know that someone appreciates you, so be sure that you are always letting them know. Don’t be afraid to make yourself some hours of operation and set time limits on the hours in the day you will be unavailable. Especially if you are in a business that revolves around other people’s nights and weekends. This will help you be more efficient with work, and it will allow you the opportunity to spend quality time with the ones who matter most to you.

Cheers to healthy relations!